Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?
In the last 24 hours I’ve found myself thinking more and more about small talk. And then…me and Dunk watched “Pulp Fiction” (or should I say re-watched) and these 3 lines sparked my interest.
Mia: Why do we feel it’s necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?
Vincent: I don’t know. That’s a good question.
Mia: That’s when you know you’ve found somebody special. When you can just shut the fuck up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence.
Why is it some people just can’t deal with silence. Personally, I embrace it most times. Like…for example…if I’m taking a cab from A to B …please don’t start asking me about myself or where I’m from or how long I’ve been here etc etc….we really don’t need to do this…it’s fine. Those are actually the exact words I’ve said to a taxi driver one very tired Sunday evening, when all I wanted was to sit in silence and get home.
On the other hand, I have experienced people that can literally make you feel amazing just by how positive and happy they are, and that is absolutely brilliant, however…if you’re not like that…and deep down inside you really couldn’t care less about the person you’re speaking to…then just…maybe…say a polite hello…turn on the music loud and go about doing your job, eh? Why? Because all that fake niceness is really obvious in your voice, body language etc. From my point of view at least, that’s much better than pretending to chit chat to this random stranger I’m never going to, most likely, see again . Just say “Hello!” and take me where I need to go and I will be your loyal customer.
Now I am very aware that some people might like the polite fake chit chat from strangers, which is completely fine…hey each to their own, maybe there should be some kind of common courtesy code where one could just …make a hand gesture and leave, and not have to converse with the random stranger just because “it’s polite”.
I like being real and honest with people, and if that might not always be polite then so be it! But honestly…what would you rather have? A polite lie that will not make you strive for better….or…an honest answer that might make you happy, might make you upset…but if you learn to look passed it…you can grow and become a better person!